You two are very different! Scorpio
becomes intensely involved emotionally to particular people and places.
Scorpio bonds deeply and becomes very attached to close people and
especially to a lover. Gemini by contrast, takes life in a lighter vein
and usually does not become as emotionally involved and attached to
things as Scorpio. Scorpio may feel that Gemini is superficial, evasive,
childish, and not serious enough, while Gemini may feel that Scorpio is
too heavy, intense, demanding, and insatiable. Scorpio thrives on
intense, direct experiences and is best suited to a life style that
involves direct, non-0vicarious, non-intellectual activities of
forceful, instinctive, or natural kind, preferably using one's hands
(examples: surgery, deep sea diving, most competitive athletic sports,
sex, pottery etc.) while Gemini's approach is more cerebral, less
focused and intensive, and more varied. The disparity between your two
approaches to like is great and you need to strive to make your
differences complement each other rather than interfere with each other.
The truth is you are probably attracted to the very same qualities that
make you so different.
Your emotional natures are so essentially
different that you have great difficulty appreciating or understanding
one another at times. Scorpio is very passionate emotionally and feels
everything very deeply. Scorpio has strong emotional reactions to
everything, intense loves and hates, and doesn't have Gemini's ability
to be detached, reasonable, and rational in personal situations. Gemini
can be as cool as a cucumber, light and breezy about situations that,
for Scorpio are very real and serious and heavily charged with emotion,
and it may seem to Scorpio that Gemini doesn't care, doesn't feel or
doesn't emphathise at all sometimes.
Gemini often feels threatened or
uncomfortable with emotions, and uses humor, cool reasoning, or simple
avoidance as a way to deflect some of Scorpio's intensity.
Another issue between you is that Gemini
enjoys people, enjoys socializing, needs variety and novelty and mental
stimulation, while Scorpio is very private and downright unsociable at
times. Gemini needs to feel free to move about, and Scorpio tends to be
possessive and is often resentful or jealous of Gemini's other interests
and involvements.
Also, Scorpio can be very demanding, as
Scorpio has a powerful need and capacity for deep sharing, intimacy, and
closeness, and may want more than Gemini is capable of giving on that
level.
In addition to whatever emotional or
romantic attraction exists between the two of you, you have a wonderful
friendship: you LIKE each other, are tolerant of one another's failings,
and tend to bring out the best in one another. There is a great deal of
mutual good will and an unselfish desire to see each other grow and to
be happy.
You increase one another's sense of
confidence and optimism, and any cooperative relationship or partnership
is likely to be richly rewarding.
The emotional bond between you is very
complex. Sexual attraction is strong and you find each other to be very
magnetic or highly charismatic. But you also will find yourself becoming
uncomfortable with various deeply ingrained habits and attitudes of each
other as you learn more about each other. You are simultaneously
attracted and repulsed by each other. You evoke intense emotional
responses from each other and if you want this relationship to be a
long-lasting one, you will have to be very careful because a blowup in
the relationship can be triggered by jealousy, acts of unkindness, or
simply the unwillingness of either of you to change deeply ingrained
habits that are offensive to each other. In short, this is an
emotionally intense relationship that blows hot and cold, drives you to
emotional extremes, and challenges your deepest, most personal and
important attitudes and habits.
For various reasons, you may find it
somewhat difficult to balance your sexual inhibitions with your
enthusiasm about sex. You may also be attracted to sexual activities
that get you in to trouble. Both of you can become jealous partners;
which can at times inhibit sexual enjoyment. Scorpio needs more physical
expression than Gemini.
Severe problems in communicating,
understanding one another's viewpoints, or even being open to the ideas
of one another can and will wreak havoc in your relationship, unless you
both work at listening and expressing yourselves clearly. You both
become rigid and defensive when talking together, as if your
intelligence is being questioned, and this can lead to a complete
severance of real communication. Avoid giving one another "the
silent treatment" or cold shoulder when you are feeling
misunderstood or frustrated that you aren't being heard.
Patience is one of the lessons being
offered here. You'll both have to have it in order to overcome the
blocks to communication that exist between you. It will be hard work,
but assuming other aspects of your relationship are deeply worthwhile,
it should be worth the effort.
It you are married or live together,
handling schedules and day-to-day responsibilities can become a major
issue and a potential stumbling block. You can lock horns when it comes
to deciding who is responsible for preparing meals, cleaning the home,
getting the car fixed, making sure all of the bills are paid, mowing the
lawn, etc. Gemini, in particular, may have the sense of contributing
more than half the load, and may resent any complaints by Scorpio. Oddly
enough, it is likely that together you probably do a good job at meeting
these responsibilities, and very often you work well together. But
unresolved disagreements on how to best coordinate your efforts can be a
sore point in your relationship.