Cancer is more attached to family, more
nostalgic, and more domestic than Aquarius. Aquarius is very friendly
but not as emotionally involved with family and has much broader tastes
and interests. Cancer, for example, becomes very emotionally attached to
familiar surroundings and is inclined to live in one place for a long
time. Aquarius on the other hand, is more willing to follow whatever
direction that career changes and other demands necessitate. Aquarius
quickly makes new friends and does not need as high a degree of intimacy
as Cancer and therefore finds the transition to new surroundings much
easier. Cancer is also more concerned with having financial and material
security and is more inclined to worry if circumstances are not stable
and secure. Cancer needs to be needed and wants a level of emotional
bonding and nurturing that Aquarius may be incapable of.
Both of you have a strong concern for
people, but while Cancer is very personal and responds mostly to family
or to people in the immediate environment, Aquarius has broader
concerns, more universal sympathies, and an interest in human welfare in
general. Aquarius often puts friends, social concerns or causes, or
involvement in the world at large ahead of family loyalties, while
Cancer isn't inclined that way at all and may feel neglected and hurt by
Aquarius's attitude.
The two of you are quite different in
other respects also. Cancer is sentimental and emotionally attached to
the past, to familiar places and people, and to the safety, security and
comfort of the known. Aquarius, on the other hand, craves newness and
excitement, and is rebellious or at least indifferent to convention and
the traditions of the past. Aquarius is not averse to making radical
changes in residence or lifestyle, while Cancer holds tightly to things
as they are.
Also, Aquarius values personal freedom
and needs to maintain a sense of individuality even in close
relationships, while Cancer is very dependent on loved ones and may be
made very anxious and insecure by Aquarius's independence. Aquarius
needs to be sensitive to Cancer's feelings and attachments, and to
recognise that change which is too rapid or sudden is very upsetting to
Cancer.
Another difference between you is that
Cancer is very emotional and subjective, while Aquarius is clear and
objective, and frequently out of touch with emotions. Positively, Cancer
can help Aquarius get in touch with deep feelings, sensitivities, and
emotional needs that Aquarius has buried, and Aquarius can help cancer
get some more clarity and perspective on Cancer's sometimes confusing or
overwhelming feelings and moods.
This relationship changes course suddenly
and unexpectedly. There is a great deal of unpredictability to the
relationship. At best, your relationship is exciting and unconventional,
and at worst it leaves Aquarius frustrated by Cancer's unwillingness to
be more committed and devoted to the relationship. The unpredictable
nature of the relationship and the lack of constancy and security may
cause either, or both, of you to feel very uncomfortable.
The two of you frequently approach work
and goals in very different ways, and consequently you are inclined to
step on each other's toes. Aquarius may feel that Cancer is pushy or
insensitive to all of the issues and concerns that are involved in a
situation. You can work together very effectively, but it requires you
to allow each other the freedom to approach problems in a very different
way than you would. Very often you can accomplish more by working
separately from each other on different aspects of a problem rather than
attempting to work jointly.
Romantic love and sexual attraction is
very strong. You pour your hearts out to each other and feel like you
are able to express your feelings to each other very fully.
Sexually there is an electric excitement
and energy between you that comes and goes. You are apt to be highly
adventurous – if not downright deviant – as sexual partners.
Combining variety with truly satisfying
intimacy, mutual enjoyment can be achieved. When you try out new
varieties of sexual expression, it is important to define your sexual
desires, to avoid confusion. Oils and creams may appeal to you.
There is a magnetic, rather intense
attraction between you, and it is very likely that you will go through
many intense challenges and emotionally powerful experiences together.
The two of you have a strong intuitive
understanding of each other, and you inspire each other's imagination,
idealism, and aspirations. You help each other to become clearer about
your ideals and religious inclinations, and together you develop a
greater sense of meaning and purpose in your lives. You help each other
to look beyond the daily problems and issues of your personal lives and
focus more on altruistic goals and broader issues.
Aquarius bristles at Cancer's possessiveness and can't understand why Cancer won't hang loose. Aquarius is careless and free with affection, making sensitive Cancer feel neglected and rejected. Aquarius hates Cancer's clinging restrictiveness and complaining, which stem from Cancer's constant need for proofs of love. Cancer wants a safe, secure home, but Aquarius needs a very flexible living arrangement. Cancer wants Aquarius to stay-but soon Aquarius is inclined to wander away.
This is a clash in personalities, with Aquarius being unpredictable and Cancer being cautious. Cancer appears warm and loving, while on the surface Aquarius tends to be cool and distant. The two will probably hurt each others feelings more than anything. There’s not much happening in this relationship unless of course, each partner is willing to change their ways.